woman dancing en pointe outside

Dancing Beyond Gender Norms

Can you imagine, though,  what it would mean to young people who identify outside gender norms to see themselves represented on stage? Or the validation a non-binary individual might feel to be included in a company no matter their gender at birth? 

When I think about it, isn't this what needs to happen everywhere? Don't we need to burst our imaginary bubbles of what is traditional and "appropriate" regarding gender roles so that anyone of any gender can achieve their goals and live their dreams?

November 08, 2022
Longing for Belonging

Longing for Belonging

What I'm really thinking about today is belonging, family, and community. At Pride, for every person who came into our booth with a supportive family, there were others who looked at our pins and buttons wishing for parents or siblings or a community who would really see them and accept them for who they are. The longing for belonging was palpable and heartbreaking.
October 20, 2022
In which we are reminded what happens when we assume...

In which we are reminded what happens when we assume...

I am always humbled by what I do not know, and what I assume to know. I've talked about assumptions before, but I think this has to be an ongoing conversation. 
October 04, 2022
You don't have to get everything right, just keep practicing!

You don't have to get everything right, just keep practicing!

I love everything about this article from The Washington Post. There has been such an enormous shift in how we look at gender and sexuality from the time I was a teen and it can be overwhelming, even if your goal is to be the best damn ally you can be. I think it's really pretty simple though. Love your kids (and your adults) for who they are, stop vilifying their choices, and stand with them as they grow and explore who they are. And educate yourself!"
September 06, 2022
In Which we Consider Beyond the Pronouns and The Pride Flags

In Which we Consider Beyond the Pronouns and The Pride Flags

"Here's what I'm wondering. If you are filling out a form for whatever reason and you have the opportunity, do you indicate your gender identity or sexual orientation? I'm assuming (dangerous, I know) that if an organization includes these questions on a form that they genuinely want to know and are trying to be inclusive. Is that enough though?"
August 01, 2022
It's One Thing to Learn, Another to Understand

It's One Thing to Learn, Another to Understand

I've been thinking about the different identity terms in the LGBTQIA+ community. It has been important to me to know these terms on a practical level since we design and create jewelry and accessories using the colors of the different pride flags. On a personal level, there are so many people that I love that are members of this community and I want to honor them by educating myself. I thought memorizing the colors of various pride flags was my way of better understanding the community, empathizing, and being a better ally. Nope. Memorizing and understanding are two different things. (Obviously, right?)

I've been thinking about this so much because I live with someone who recently told me that they identify as genderqueer. Researching on the line is a great way to learn about sexual identity, there is so much great information, but I want to understand and connect on a deeper level. 

Fortunately, this person is happy to answer my questions. I asked what genderqueer means to them, why they identify as genderqueer, and what they think is the most important thing for me to know as I seek to understand.

Please don't think that I believe it's another person's job to educate me about their identity. I believe it's my responsibility to research first before asking questions and to make sure it's ok with the other person before I ask anything. I know that these personal truths are sacred and often tender, and I am honored when someone trusts me enough to share their story.

If you have experiences like mine I would love to hear about them. I think that it is only by communicating with each other that we will strengthen our connections and our communities. That really is how peace begins.

Thanks for reading and for being part of this community.

until next time,

Ellin (she/her)

 

 

 

July 26, 2022
It Was Just the Best Pride!

It Was Just the Best Pride!

We're still basking in the wonderful that was. Out! Raleigh Pride on June 25. It was just so much, well, wonderful!

Yes, there were loud detractors citing misinterpreted biblical text, but those were met with shouts of "love is love" to drown them out and there were so many more examples of love and inclusion and respect than of hate.

 Family after family stopped at our booth and looked for buttons or pins or jewelry or keychains that represented and affirmed their children.

One young adult was so moved by a child's wish for a button and their parent's affirmation that the young adult bought said button as a gift.

There were folks who asked questions (which my lovely young mentor was able to answer quite well, teaching me in the process) and others who made great suggestions for designs that we've taken with us and started making.

Even in the ridiculous heat, and the extraordinary number of people, there was so much joy and love that it fills me up even now.

All I want to know now is how do we keep that wonderful going. Because we need to. We have to. This community deserves that kind of love every day, everywhere.

Hope you have a great week, 

thanks for being here,

Ellin (she/her)

 

 

 

July 19, 2022
Would You Wear Your Pronouns?

Would You Wear Your Pronouns?

I’m probably making another assumption. It goes like this, “if your pronouns are not the mainstream she/her or he/him, you will want to wear them in the form of a button or necklace or some such thing so everyone will know the proper pronoun to use for you.” But would you?
May 05, 2022
Searching For The Next Great Read

Searching For The Next Great Read

I’m searching for my next great read from LGBTQIA+ authors and I thought I would share the results of my searching with you. Here’s what I’ve come up with so far, it’s not exhaustive but it’s a start. 
April 26, 2022
The One About Assumptions

The One About Assumptions

Do you ever think about the assumptions that you make? I don’t think assumptions are always bad, but recently I’ve been thinking I need to take a closer look at mine because of a recent conversation.
April 18, 2022
What Are You Hoping For

What Are You Hoping For

What are you hoping for today? I think that you are here because you either travel the same road I do as an LGBTQIA+ Ally, or maybe you’re a member of the community. Either way, if you could have one wish for this rainbow of beautiful humans, what would it be? 

My wish for this community is total acceptance. I think that would cover it, don’t you? No more violence. No more discrimination. No more fear. My beautiful gay children and yours certainly deserve no less than to walk through their lives,  never needing to worry about their safety based on who they love. 

I hope that there is a day when violence and discrimination against the LGBTQIA+ community is a thing of the past, a day when we don’t need a word like “heteronormative”, a time when there is no need to “come out of the closet”, a day when we don’t create division by categorizing people by sexual orientation, a day when people are accepted and celebrated for who they are no matter who they love. 

I started to write today on a different topic, but thoughts about legislation and hate and crimes against the LGBTQIA+ community kept pressing in. Some days, the reality of bias and intolerance, and cruelty weigh more heavily than on other days. Instead of trying to force the universe today, I decided instead to share what was on my heart. I’m thinking that you might have been in this same place a time or two. Next time you find yourself there, I hope you remember that you are not alone, that there are those of us for whom love is love and who celebrate every single smidge of the LGBTQIA+ rainbow, and will continue to work every day to make that wish of acceptance a reality.

Thanks for being part of this conversation.

With much love,

Ellin (she/her)

March 22, 2022
That Rainbow Pride Flag Feeling- Assumptions of an Ally Searching for Truth

That Rainbow Pride Flag Feeling- Assumptions of an Ally Searching for Truth

You know how one thing leads to another and suddenly you’ve gone down a completely related yet unrelated rabbit hole? Here’s what happened recently when Hannah and I looked for Pride festivals to attend this summer 
March 15, 2022

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