Because I'm Proud- One Mom's Journey to Become the Best Damn Ally She Can Be

assumptions gender neutral clothing gender pronouns lgbtq flags lgbtqia+ lgbtqia+ ally lgbtqia+ assumptions preferred pronouns
Would You Wear Your Pronouns?

Would You Wear Your Pronouns?

I’m probably making another assumption. It goes like this, “if your pronouns are not the mainstream she/her or he/him, you will want to wear them in the form of a button or necklace or some such thing so everyone will know the proper pronoun to use for you.” But would you?
May 05, 2022
Searching For The Next Great Read

Searching For The Next Great Read

I’m searching for my next great read from LGBTQIA+ authors and I thought I would share the results of my searching with you. Here’s what I’ve come up with so far, it’s not exhaustive but it’s a start. 
April 26, 2022
The One About Assumptions

The One About Assumptions

Do you ever think about the assumptions that you make? I don’t think assumptions are always bad, but recently I’ve been thinking I need to take a closer look at mine because of a recent conversation.
April 18, 2022
What Are You Hoping For

What Are You Hoping For

What are you hoping for today? I think that you are here because you either travel the same road I do as an LGBTQIA+ Ally, or maybe you’re a member of the community. Either way, if you could have one wish for this rainbow of beautiful humans, what would it be? 

My wish for this community is total acceptance. I think that would cover it, don’t you? No more violence. No more discrimination. No more fear. My beautiful gay children and yours certainly deserve no less than to walk through their lives,  never needing to worry about their safety based on who they love. 

I hope that there is a day when violence and discrimination against the LGBTQIA+ community is a thing of the past, a day when we don’t need a word like “heteronormative”, a time when there is no need to “come out of the closet”, a day when we don’t create division by categorizing people by sexual orientation, a day when people are accepted and celebrated for who they are no matter who they love. 

I started to write today on a different topic, but thoughts about legislation and hate and crimes against the LGBTQIA+ community kept pressing in. Some days, the reality of bias and intolerance, and cruelty weigh more heavily than on other days. Instead of trying to force the universe today, I decided instead to share what was on my heart. I’m thinking that you might have been in this same place a time or two. Next time you find yourself there, I hope you remember that you are not alone, that there are those of us for whom love is love and who celebrate every single smidge of the LGBTQIA+ rainbow, and will continue to work every day to make that wish of acceptance a reality.

Thanks for being part of this conversation.

With much love,

Ellin (she/her)

March 22, 2022
That Rainbow Pride Flag Feeling- Assumptions of an Ally Searching for Truth

That Rainbow Pride Flag Feeling- Assumptions of an Ally Searching for Truth

You know how one thing leads to another and suddenly you’ve gone down a completely related yet unrelated rabbit hole? Here’s what happened recently when Hannah and I looked for Pride festivals to attend this summer 
March 15, 2022
The Wedding Journey Continues- A Search for Gender Neutral Shopping Experiences

The Wedding Journey Continues- A Search for Gender Neutral Shopping Experiences

Today, after continuing the search for wedding attire, I’m thinking about fitting rooms. (this will make sense in a minute, I promise.) For those of us who fit into standardized gender roles, trying on clothes is fairly straight forward. Find an outfit, go to the dressing room. Didn’t fit? Return to the area within close proximity to the dressing room or at least on the same floor to find something else. So what about our friends who don’t fit the standardized gender roles?
March 09, 2022
On the road to planning a wedding- one Ally’s perspective of the status quo

On the road to planning a wedding- one Ally’s perspective of the status quo

My oldest daughter is getting married in June and as we’ve looked for clothes or flowers or venus or photography, more often than not the advertising looks like the typically cisgendered wedding. It has me thinking about all the things around “wedding” culture that scream “be gender normative! Don’t step outside of who society thinks you should be, especially on this very important day that should look and feel like society’s definition of status quo heterosexual/cis-gender roles!”. 
March 01, 2022
What About Gender Pronouns

What About Gender Pronouns

I’m going to sound old now, but it’s true that when I was growing up we had a limited number of pronouns and he/him/his was used for boys/men, and she/her/hers was used for girls/women. They/them was used for a group of people- or- used if we didn’t know which sex we were referring to.


 

February 22, 2022
How Important is a Flag

How Important is a Flag

So, how important is having your own flag? If this is a question, then my answer would be, “how important is it to feel like you belong, that you have a connection to folks like you, that there is a way to feel safe and accepted just as you are, no matter who you love?”
February 14, 2022
On The Road to Ally- The Journey Begins

On The Road to Ally- The Journey Begins

I am the proud mom of a lovely young woman who happens to be gay, and I am on a journey to become the best damn Ally I can be.
February 10, 2022

Enter your information

to join the Proud VIP and never miss a blog post!

* indicates required

Because I'm Proud Studio will use the information you provide on this form to be in touch with you and to provide updates, newsletter, email, giveaways, and marketing.

You can unsubscribe at any time by clicking the link in the footer of our emails. For information about our privacy practices, please visit our website.